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How to explain to the child that it is impossible?

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In this article I will tell you why a child does not understand the word "No", and I will give an exercise, thanks to which your baby will feel what it is, and will begin to listen to you.

Baby of the year - very inquisitive. And all these “antics” that irritate us so much (everywhere fit, everything will open, taste, tear, disassemble, drop, shed) are nothing more than acquaintance with the properties of objects, with the world around it.

We all know this, that it is impossible to eat unwashed fruits, what is dangerous about fire and so on. And the child is not yet.

By the way, we didn’t know about it in our childhood either. And just like our baby, they learned from their experience, earned their bruises and bumps.

And finally, they gained this precious experience and became so clever!

Therefore, the most valuable thing we can give the baby - allow him to acquireYOUR experience. And for this we will not ban the child everything. Something needs to be resolved - just for stuffing your bumps.Then to avoid them.

But we live among people, and we have to obey certain rules. And our child will also face the fact that not in life is always the way you want, therefore - categorical prohibitions must be.

Well, since prohibitions cannot be avoided, let's think over what we categorically ban the baby? What should not be allowed?

  • you can not run away from mom for a walk
  • you can not run out on the road where cars are passing
  • do not touch the hot kettle
  • Do not beat people and animals, etc.

How to determine what to prohibit and what does not?

Very simple!
Every time a child does something, we ask ourselves: Does it threaten his life or health? If threatened - certainly forbid.

This question is always in my head. He will greatly facilitate the life of us and our child!

Very important: in order to teach the child to obey the words "It is impossible", Requirements for the child should always be the same for all family members.

Let's not play with the household before the child "in the good and evil cop", and agree with all the relatives that we will allow the baby and what will not.

If one of the parents prohibits something, and the other allows it, the child will not listen to any prohibitions. we only confusing your little one

Many prohibitions - benefit or harm?

Now imagine that we are small, pretty kids.

We want to know everything, to consider, to check. We are pure in our thoughts. We study everything, try for a tooth, explore, do not touch anyone ...

And suddenly - the cries of an irritated mother: “You can’t touch, look, try, take, walk, stand, climb, you can’t sleep, you can’t eat, you can't, you can't, you can't. "

Do you think we will remember what and when it is impossible? And why not?
And what then is possible, since there is so much “no”

Head is spinning. The nervous system is in tension.

How do we behave in this case? Most likely, we will ignore all these numerous and incomprehensible "no".

That the child listen to our words, bans should not be much.

Let's look at 3 situations:

First:
The child got into a puddle. He wet the shoes, get sick ... What should mom tell him?
We reflect on the answer.

The second:
The kid reaches for the pot of boiling water. How will we respond?

Third:
The child climbs everywhere - in the nightstand, in the closet, takes out the contents, makes a wild mess. Letting him do it, or not?

And now we check the answers.

In the first case We, of course, will not shout the child, scold him. The word "no" can't pronounce too often.

Therefore, we have a choice: either we, if there are puddles around, put appropriate clothes and shoes on the child, and then “it is impossible” will automatically turn into “can” - the child will be able to continue to comprehend our wonderful world, we will carry away anything else, leading its away from the puddle.

In the second case - there must be a firm ban! Because boiling water is a threat to health, and even the life of a child!

In the third riddle The right answer is to calm down, remember that we get early wrinkles from indignation (do we need them?), and think that this kind of child's behavior is a temporary phenomenon.

Soon the baby will grow up and lose interest in such actions. In the meantime, you need to decide how to make all these drawers-doors difficult to open. If the handles of the locker can be tied with a rope, we tie them up. If it is impossible, we place something under the door so that it opens with great difficulty. In general, you can think of a lot of things. We, moms, do not hold fantasies!

Practical exercise:
How to explain what it means "can not"?

Also very simple. Lectures will not help. Just practice!

So, the name of our lesson is “Use of the ordinary teapot as a valid guide for explaining to an early age child the abstract word“ DO NOT ”.

This is a classic lessonproven by dozens of generations of moms and kids.
We will need:

  1. Teapot.
  2. Hot water.
  3. A child who needs to impart a certain skill.
  4. Patience, love and understanding.

- Ah! Hot water! - exclaim you.

No, don't be scared! We will not create a threat to the life and health of the baby!
we
only let's model such a situation in which “why not” will become obvious. Just the child does not understand the words.

So, we pour into the kettle very warm, almost hot water.
But notboiling waterwhich baby will scald.

Be sure to touch the kettle with your hand - the temperature should be such that it is unpleasant, but tolerable. We put the kettle in an accessible place for the child. Stay close by.

... And so, the child's handles are drawn to the teapot. We are with the most serious look, looking the child in the eye, calmlypronounce: "It is impossible." AND explain: “The kettle is hot. It will hurt. ”

Be sure, surely the kid will climb to check our words! His reaction is predictable: the lips will wrinkle, the nose will wrinkle, tears will come to my eyes. It's a shame, unpleasant!

But what will happen next?

Do you think he will remember this feeling forever and calm down? No matter how wrong! He immediately pulled to the kettle again!

The most persistent kids can repeat such actions several times in a row. For a child, this is a very uncomfortable feeling, but you need to make sure, make sure yourself.

Gradually, the baby becomes clear - "no" - this is a ban!

After a while (maybe even tomorrow), the situation may repeat exactly, the child will again try to touch the hot kettle, but he will act more cautiously and will begin to listen to our words.

Immediately respond to the ban baby will not learn. It will take our patience, but it's worth it!

Sometimes it happens that after our “no” the child is hysterical. So, he already understands that the ban limits his actions, and violently protests against it.

If we give up and yield - we will fall in his eyes and lose all respect. Therefore, we will continue to insist on his.

If the child screams, does not calm down - let's go to the trick - we will show him something more interesting, amazing. Demonstrate how to us it is interesting. Most likely, the child (perhaps not immediately) will switch to another object.

If the hysteria does not stop, we will gently insist on our own. It is impossible - it is impossible.

Even if ugly behavior happens in a public place and we are very uncomfortable for our child - we take ourselves in hand, and remember that Absolutely ALL parents have the same thing with their children.we are not alone. Surrounding us will understand.

  • The word "no" we rarely pronounce - only if necessary. In all other cases, we replace this negative word with softer words. For example, we say: - "You can do this" (and show how best to do it).
  • We clearly understand ourselves WHAT it will never let the baby - under any circumstances (what is a threat to health and life).
  • Ban never utter in a joking way - only firmly, calmly, confidently, looking into the eyes. Do not scream at the child.
  • When a child is in a good mood, give him examples correct and incorrect behavior, we read books on these topics, we discuss them, we explain.
  • Be patient, realizing that the skill will not be formed quickly. Do not get tired to remind you what is possible and what is not. Explain why.
  • Helping your baby get comfortable in our world.
  • We remember that, refusing a baby, we do good for him. Very soon he will understand that it is not always possible to do what he wants.

How to formulate their own prohibitions so that they do not provoke the whims and hysterics of the child?

1. Watch for words.

Looking at other moms, advising, I see most often that this word is “not allowed”.

It is believed that this is a magic word that a child should learn very well, should always obey him, if you said "no", then the child should stop doing this at your first request.

But the situation is often the opposite, why?

Because “no” is divorced a lot, and this word loses its original meaning.

Its importance for the child is very much reduced, if you several times, or rather dozens, during the day say to him: “Vanya, it’s impossible, Vanya, it’s impossible” and Vanya just stops paying attention to this word.

What to do? Do not ban the child?

Forbid, but I recommend you use the following rule.

2. The word can not be used only for vital things.

For example: you can not stick your finger in the outlet,

can not touch hot

you can't cross the road alone, only do it with your mother's hand.

And so on, I think the point is clear.

3. For all other forbidding things, use other forbidding words!

Do not touch, put in place, be careful, it is easy to beat, it's mom's, it's someone else's, and so on.

For example: if you see a child taking your bag: she wants to get your wallet or, maybe, lipstick (and they love these things very much), you can’t say instead of that - “Masha, this is my mother’s bag, I don’t allow me to climb there! Come on, I'll give you the pencils. ”

Pay attention to the last rule.

4. Be sure to explain your ban and offer an alternative to this action.

In the above example about the bag - if you do not play with the bag, then how can you play?

If a child climbs into some unauthorized place, then we can say: “Sasha, it’s high there. Let's get on this step, you can climb this step ”.

Acting on such an algorithm, we explain to the child the significance of the word NOT.

We use it only in critical, dangerous situations. And then the ban will really have the very desired effect, the reinforced concrete effect of stopping in a dangerous situation.

Try to start using these simple ways in your communication with the child and you will see that it has become much easier to negotiate with the child.

The child will stop reacting negatively to your inhibitions and peace and understanding in your relationship will become much more.

See also my video tutorial about the reasons that baby can't hear you:

Please write in the comments about your experience: WHAT do you usually prohibit a child and HOW do you do it?

In what situations prohibitions do not work at all and the child continues to do what he wants, and you do not know how to achieve the desired behavior? I will choose the most common ones and prepare for you a material with analysis of your situation.

Julia Kondrina

Psychologist, Gestalt therapist. Specialist from the website b17.ru

may intonation is wrong?

She strictly said "no" and immediately offered an alternative to what to do.

How many times do you tell him "no" and the same time the baby gets on the pope? Poor child. It is necessary to push the mothers, from which already a year the children get butts.

And remove the prohibited item out of sight?

the child still does not understand. How can this not be? Look mom, I can! In his understanding it is impossible to get a star from the sky. And the rest is possible!

Less "can not." You can say this: "Take this, and let it lie down, it's sharp, fingers get sick of it." All that is impossible, we must remove. And with the rest you can play. The child must be busy, it is necessary to play with him, communicate, practice, then he has no time to take what is impossible. There must always be an alternative. Not "it is impossible", but: "it is possible, but it is not worth it, it is not necessary, let it lie down here."

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One year old child on the pope? You are crazy. Remove these items out of sight and everything. Dangerous lockers lock up, heavy objects or sharp to remove. If picked up, take away from him with the words "no, son. Here's a book for you (bear, cup, car)." Cry and stop.

Less "can not." You can say this: "Take this, and let it lie down, it's sharp, fingers get sick of it." All that is impossible, we must remove. And with the rest you can play. The child must be busy, it is necessary to play with him, communicate, practice, then he has no time to take what is impossible. There must always be an alternative. Not "it is impossible", but: "it is possible, but it is not worth it, it is not necessary, let it lie down here."

Not all items can be removed. Sometimes he fixes on something that is not possible to distract. Guest 3, I do not give a bum every time. Easier to say that he received 3-4 times. I do not think it is deadly. Still, there is a method of education "carrots and sticks."

The author, and can be more specific: what prohibited items can not be removed?

The main thing is to say something like, well, well, well, alert or disturbing tone. Acts)) and explain along the way

We have a socket in 20 cm from the floor. It sticks out the cord from the TV. There is no place to remove and nothing to force. More favorite wires from the computer. They too will not be nailed to the ceiling. 3 times broke the communicator, the repair of which was not cheap. Cat's tail - she is also not superfluous. Flowers, vacuum cleaner, cosmetics. I do not have so many cabinets to hide everything. One has only to turn away, something breaks.

The author, and I did not turn on the TV when the child was nearby, put a plug on the outlet. You are on parental leave. This is not a rest, but a voluntary responsibility for the upbringing of a person.

The author, everything that you have described, is in each apartment. Maybe your child just has nothing to do, so he climbs into various forbidden places. Bring him to walk more often, play with him at home, and do things when he sleeps. I do not know when my little ones were, they were always in my sight ALWAYS. And if I saw that the child was already tired of what he was doing, I had something else ready. There were no problems with wires or with flowers.

A child in 1 year has the full right not to understand the prohibitions. And if you do not want to protect him, then if he gets hurt or gets injured, only you will be guilty. And even put the communicator on the top shelf, even an idiot would guess.
In our childhood and lockers, some were tied up, and the wires were removed from the plywood and chairs, and the sockets were plugged. But it is easier for the author to punish the child, who now does not even understand yet why it’s impossible to play with wires if they are very conveniently piled on the floor.

There is no possibility to go outside. Very bad weather. It rains every day. He was tired of his toys. While he is sleeping, I’m just doing my work, but I still don’t have enough time. And put on the shelf? Shelves are not in principle.

I had 3 words: do not, you can not and DANGER. This is "not necessary", this is something that is possible in principle, but at the moment it is undesirable (shouting loudly when mom has a headache). "It is impossible", this is what the child simply can not be taken. A "dangerous" is sockets, irons, window sills, stove, etc. And this word was pronounced in a terrible voice, very seriously, with an explanation of the consequences and big eyes. And there was never a problem of starting the rosettes.
Cosmetics, household chemicals, all sharp, high clean. On the doors of the cabinets are sold latches. I stood on the nightstand, where are the documents and on the drawer with knives.
We somehow went to goya with the child, there the girl was the same age (they were 2.5 each). So they have grandmother's pills and ointments were laid out on a low pier glass. I do not care for such carelessness.

My mother so "cannot" says that if you do not know Russian, you might think that she encourages the opposite - she says "it is impossible" with a smile, with a loss - the child sees that she is satisfied and does not even think to stop climbing anywhere. Listening to me, but if you turn away or go into another room, it will immediately fit into the closet and razderbanit all or dump the contents. In the year and month we were helped by sticky stickers from IKEA. Then I learned how to open them, bought bollards on the doors. And just yesterday (his year and 8), he began to tear them off. What is possible - I will paste it for a moment in the evening, but otherwise I don’t know what to do. I do something to call, locks punched? Probably, it is necessary, because everything is no longer possible to move up.

Is that really true. What a horror - one year old baby on the pope. I have no relation to my baby, which is a year and eight months old, the words "should not", there are distracting maneuvers, switching attention and inaccessibility of dangerous objects!
I have absolutely the same child as all the others, she is also bored with her toys, then she switches to the dishes in the kitchen, all sorts of spoons. I deliberately moved the kitchen from the bottom drawers to the top, all of which would be impossible for my daughter to play. We also have a cat, so what. an adult cat, when she becomes uncomfortable, she runs away from encroachment. And then, I noticed a long time ago that all that “cannot” especially attracts the attention of kids, therefore everything is “possible” but under supervision. she twisted the handle plate. I brought it all back. ребенок такого возраста не должен быть предоставлен сам себе.

Метлой ему по голове!

http://neivid.livejournal.com/
вот тут совершенно потрясающий верхний пост на эту тему. Букв много, предупреждаю сразу, но оно того стоит.

Нормально, "все "можно" но под присмотром. she twisted the handle plate. I brought it all back. "A child should have an idea that there are things that cannot be categorically. It’s one thing to rattle with spoon-spoons. But never handles should be twisted around the stove! Today, the child will do this under supervision, and tomorrow you will go to the toilet, he will do it without you, your mother allowed you to twist. Or do you go to the toilet together? The child grows, the boundaries of his independence expand, after some time you can go about your business in the kitchen when the child plays in the room. And here’s what you shouldn’t touch the socket , stove, iron, can't be any t bletki touch without a mother, that the knife is not a toy so should sit firmly in mind and instilled from infancy to dityu not in 3 years, not 4 it not occurred to touch yourself.

Yes, too, amused this "everything is possible." We, for example, have gas .. And in 1.1 it seems to me to be too early to “educate” and count on understanding from his side. So patience, only patience)

Author, I’m probably the only one to support you on the occasion of "on the pope." I have a child with your child of the same age, and he sometimes gets it if he climbs to where it does not follow and does not react to the word "no". The result is in any case. My crumb is not upset and does not cry when it receives - because it naturally hurts nobody. It is rather unpleasant and insulting, but for the child is quite clear method of education.

"It is impossible" must necessarily be present.
So I didn’t tell the child to do it when he tugged at my hair, when I was kicking around, and now he hangs in my hair, constantly pulls them and tugs, besides, I regularly get kicked (in sandals with hard soles). On Sunday, I kicked my stomach in such a way that my tears immediately flowed, my voice was gone — I couldn’t even scold him right away. Two days later, the stomach ached very much.
Now I’m getting tense when he’s around, I’m almost grouped together.
I began to scold him and say it was impossible, but, apparently, it is difficult to understand why it is impossible - after all he used to kick, and it was possible. I will not tell him that I used to be lucky to dodge, and there were fewer strong ones.

There is no possibility to go outside. Very bad weather. It rains every day. He was tired of his toys. While he is sleeping, I’m just doing my work, but I still don’t have enough time. And put on the shelf? Shelves are not in principle.

"It is impossible" must necessarily be present.
So I didn’t tell the child to do it when he tugged at my hair, when I was kicking around, and now he hangs in my hair, constantly pulls them and tugs, besides, I regularly get kicked (in sandals with hard soles). On Sunday, I kicked my stomach in such a way that my tears immediately flowed, my voice was gone — I couldn’t even scold him right away. Two days later, the stomach ached very much.
Now I’m getting tense when he’s around, I’m almost grouped together.
I began to scold him and say it was impossible, but, apparently, it is difficult to understand why it is impossible - after all he used to kick, and it was possible. I will not tell him that I used to be lucky to dodge, and there were fewer strong ones.

Ikea is not around 1.5 thousand. Km. Outside in the winter, the average temperature is minus 30. It rained all summer. I will not go into the rain on the street with the child for a walk?

The rat gives good advice, but the "surprises" are even worse for me .. it draws spite of the cornices. but they weigh a ton! eat sand for evil .. if you forbid it with handfuls. though it is given! and with the classic from the sofa it jumps. if you do not catch .. something like mom your problems !! and these are just the little things that came to mind at this moment! and I think it is right to write that at this age, children forgive the limits of what is permitted. and the limits of my mother's patience! child 2 years.

Oh, I forgot to say. that most often the child can not be said. "EXPERIMENTS" WILL BE WEAKLY ON YOURSELF :)

with persistent, repeated actions of the parent, the child develops a conditioned reflex :) but not immediately. it never works out where there is no evidence of the actions of the parent itself. for very, very dangerous things with repeated actions you can and on the pope. or you can be punished differently - you will be sent to your crib if you don’t have your own room. minutes two. in general, I noticed that such behavior is xix, a kind of misunderstanding. Well, yes, he understands everything perfectly, but he is trying to fool the fool with just a laugh, and the fool himself knows who he thinks he is) therefore, draw a certain firm line, necessarily explaining, that it is impossible. it is necessary. somewhere a severe punishment, somewhere an attraction is more varied, listen to your intuition.

I also do not always understand how to react correctly to my son’s disobedience, but I try in every way to avoid screaming and over the priest))) although sometimes my nerves do not stand up and then I can also shout or pull it sharply (then I really worry about it), but the output of the other I do not see) tried to distract and explain, he in every possible way wants to achieve his goal) I do not even know. but I fully agree that the child should know the word DO NOT

At this age, I just switched the attention of the child, like the Tiger White. Now, in two and a half, the formula helps me, "it is wrong, because. But you have to do it so well."

my as much.
at 11 months with his mother purposefully taught his word dangerous. Sometimes, as a consequence, they did not have time to see but of the type of bruise to the head, knocking on the table with the words painful, dangerous !!
in short, now this word is well known and when I speak, I always listen and at least pause, which gives me time so that I can remove it from dangerous objects.

mda, explain to stew.

"It is impossible" must necessarily be present.

I share the opinion: "It is impossible" must be present.
it is probably much easier to ban many here from present than to explain to the same child that only mom, dad, and so on can do this.

my daughter is almost a year old. she clearly knows the word impossible. I pronounce it with such intonation that it is simply impossible not to understand its meaning. Yes, she is offended when I remind once again that it is impossible to plug into the outlet. she knows that it is impossible, and more often she will simply look at her, “take offense” at her and simply pass by. but sometimes she flirts, and forgets. then one has to remind in the same formidable tone.
on hot and spicy, we also have the "scary" word "ah." she herself warns me when I take the teapot in hand, that ah-ah. but in order for her to understand what it was ah, I let her touch the hot one. not to boiling water, of course, but so that she was hot, so she understood what it is.
and we also have the word is not necessary. This, for example, when she is fun to pull my hair from my head .. I say she does not need.
and from all that you can not touch, you must immediately switch attention. go, read a book, go find a bug in a book, go pick up a pyramid, go put toys in a drawer, give the mom a bucket, bring the pyramid to mom, let's go drink compote, where our bear, ball and so on.
when the weather is bad, daughters are also bored at home. I try to entertain and enthrall her. constantly showing something new. constantly learning something. even put the child on the window-sill and tell him that there is rain drip-drip, that there are prrr cars, uncles and aunts are in a hurry to shelter from the rain, and that they were sitting at home. and ask what we have on the street, what the child sees out of the window takes about 20 minutes. There is really a lot of entertainment. even in a one-room apartment. If you are bored at all, bathe the baby in the bathroom with foam and toys. again half an hour and a quiet quiet hour at lunch.

I was saved by a house from under the television box - the doors were cut out of the window, so that they could be closed, there was a rug, some curtains :) they like to hide there and mess around)

I share the opinion: "It is impossible" must be present.
It’s probably much easier to ban many people here than to explain to the same child that only mom, dad and so on can do this. And then what’s the meaning of “can’t growl” and slap the baby, which doesn’t understand these words, yes understands the intonation of your voice, and probably later she will associate these words with the fact that mom is dissatisfied and then ata-ta can follow.
It is much harder to control your own actions and actions, translating the motivation of the ban into actions available to others, the same adults! I do not say that the child should not know the words "it is impossible" in principle. but not in the same year. The child is barely standing, does not know how to talk, it is written into his pants. and you can not him and ass. You can just as well discuss the child’s inability to read, write and recite poems!
Mommies, read the techniques of early development of the child, develop his motility and ability to adapt to society, consult with a child psychologist, if you yourself are so helpless in relation to the baby that it is easier for you to slap and bark than to divert attention or eliminate the problem itself!
Kids are always starting to learn this mine do not know how to calculate the force of impact, pinching, biting, the same twitching hair. and instead of "it is impossible" you need to teach the child with the simplest tactile contacts: do not knock, but stroke, not pull the hair, but gently touch them, not bite, but kiss. etc.
Being a mother is not only unlimited happiness and joy, but also hard work, which will pay off a hundredfold only in the case of your proper upbringing of your child!

How to listen to you all so clever and not lazy and most importantly ALL such caring. They all manage to walk and cook and clean and wash and stroke and go to work and agree with the one-year-old child. Mommy's mummy all children are different and all live differently. and do not need to be reduced to one idyll that ALL children are the same. If you need a child in a year old, you need to give it according to the pope. I think that in order for the child to understand the word it’s impossible to use all the methods.

Our lalke 1.7, we try to teach the word can not be))) Something understands, and does something on purpose. Smacks mom in the face, I DO NOT, and she laughs and still does her own. Then we try to distract, interest or explain something to mom, it hurts, mom will cry and then dotsya will come, she will feel sorry for mom and she will hurt))) And sometimes she will react to the ban with hysterics, shouting, she will be angry with everyone at such moments trying not to pay attention to screams. It is possible with varying success))) But the kids are not robots, so that only with the word can not jump and run away from the forbidden object. In general, mommy, patience to us all. We can do this. After all, kids are SUCH happiness.

How to listen to you all so clever and not lazy and most importantly ALL such caring. They all manage to walk and cook and clean and wash and stroke and go to work and agree with the one-year-old child. Mommy's mummy all children are different and all live differently. and do not need to be reduced to one idyll that ALL children are the same. If you need a child in a year old, you need to give it according to the pope. I think that in order for the child to understand the word it’s impossible to use all the methods.

Tree with forbidden fruits

The more you can not, the more you want - it is known even to adults. Therefore, the magic word in its categorical form should sound infrequently in your apartment and only in serious situations.

It is believed that the baby can not remember ten prohibitions at once. Before the year enter one or two "no", then every year add another pair of unwanted actions.

All this concerns only those things that carry a real danger to life - electricity, boiling water, of fire, roadwayheights.

The behavior of grandmothers who walk with their grandchildren and forbid everything on the way is completely non-pedagogical: you can’t touch a leaf on the sidewalk, move a snag - fu, pick it up in the ground - ay-ay.

First, it encourages the child to protest against the prohibitions.

Secondly, it interferes with its cognitive activity. After all, he stepped into a puddle and touched a dirty chestnut, he gets experience and knowledge about the world.

The word "no" should reinforce your harsh view (no smiles, winks and giggles), disgruntled tone and the immediate cessation of dangerous activities.

And the ban should be the same - Neither mom nor dad permits, neither tomorrow nor the day after tomorrow. And, of course, all prohibitions must be patiently explained.

Methods "without words"

If a child categorically does not understand and continues to climb, where it is not necessary, some psychologists allow him to slightly slap on the pope, pinch or hit on the arm. It's not about physical abuse!

Just a slow-witted kid should learn to match the outlet with unpleasant sensations.

There is also a way to protect a child from dangers, based on his personal experience. Introduce him with the concepts of "hot", "cold", "painful" in micro doses.

Let me dip one finger in a hot tea, bite off a piece of uncooked cake, prick a needle, get a bit hurt by paper, touch a warm teapot, put out a candle. If he fell, take pity and explain: "It hurts you."

The baby will always remember the sensations, and the next time a verbal warning will suffice.

Come up with a mythical creature that "lives" in a wall outlet or on the landing - Babai, evil uncle Tok, Koschey, and so on. Scare the kid to play, that Babai will come and bite if he does not stop.

The best way to protect a child from dangers - secure the house. Of course, it is impossible to isolate the baby in the nursery, upholstered with mattresses and plush toys.

But you can put the plugs on the outlet, silicone tips on sharp corners, blockers on the doors, and thereby reduce the risks.

Lexicon

And what about actions that are not dangerous, but unpleasant to parents? If the word “no” is left for electricity and a stove, then how to explain that my mother doesn’t need to throw a mobile phone down the toilet?

Expand your vocabulary and arsenal of gestures and facial expressions! “Don't do that”, “it's dangerous,” “it's a bad game,” “ay-ay-ay”, “mom is angry,” “it's daddy, he will be unhappy,” “it's someone else's.”

You can also make a surprised or frightened face, with a whistle inhale interjections "Aaaa!", "Oops, oops!", "Oh! Oh!". Sometimes if you just call out a child by name and wag his finger, he will put your things in place.

Offer an alternative: “You don’t need to scatter the things of your brother, he’s upset, but you can make out a dollhouse”, “throwing slippers on the TV is a bad game, and assembling a puzzle is a good one” ".

So you brighten up the ban, distract from negative thoughts and switch the child to another activity.

Feel free to explain in detail to the child what is impossible and what is possible, and why. Children are very clever even at an early age!

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