If you tell me now that there are parents who do not dream of their little girl growing up as a child prodigy, I will only smile. No such parents! We all hope that our child is the most talented, the smartest, the most ... In general, the most-the most! Right? So! 🙂
Of course it is. We dream, secretly or openly - but we dream our child to become a real wunderkind. But is it possible to help the kid to become such a child prodigy? Partly yes. And about how to do this, we will talk a little bit today.
Who we grow?
By definition, a child prodigy is a child whose level of intellectual development significantly exceeds the level of development of most children of the same age.
Such children learn to read and write early, and often acquire these skills on their own, without parental involvement. They have a well-developed memory, they are able to memorize a large amount of information without apparent effort. Unlike ordinary children, geeks have the ability to deeply focus on the subject of interest.
And the child prodigy?
There is a mass of tests in order to determine the level of intellectual abilities of the child.
Of course, you can try to do it yourself.
But not sure that you can be so impartial and objective.
Therefore, it would be better if a specialist conducted such tests. Even a simple good psychologist in kindergarten will be able to evaluate the results taking into account the specific age and characteristics of the child’s development. Not to mention the profile specialist. Moreover, it is important to evaluate such indicators over a period of six months to a year.
In addition to assessing the overall level of development, the psychologist will be able to identify the child’s inclinations toward a certain type of activity and suggest which area is better to direct parental efforts.
Popular methods of early development of the child and a large number of educated mothers of housewives who are ready to devote all their time to the beloved child, have led many children to read and count at three or four years old.
It is unlikely that such babies can be called naturally gifted, their skills are the result of their parents' work.
Asymmetrical development is typical for all wonder-children - with well-developed abilities for logical thinking, the ability to systematize and structure the information received, other mental functions are noticeably lagging behind.
Most often "lame" fantasy, imagination, emotions. With high intelligence, children often demonstrate household and social infantilism, are not friends with physical education. A lag in motor development occurs not only because a little genius does not play outdoor games with other children in the yard, runs and jumps a little, but also because nature, generously endowing one, is often deprived of another.
According to statistics, among the truly gifted children are much more boys - such were Mozart, Einstein, Hugo, Griboedov, mathematicians Gauss and Pascal, the physicist Ampère, the founder of cybernetics Wiener. But all these former geeks, who later became great people, are the exception rather than the rule.
Parents of children exhibiting unusual abilities often throw everything at their feet, refusing their own career, the mother (most often mothers work with the miracle children) devotes all his time to the child, engaging in developmental exercises, absorbing specialized literature in tons.
Not always aware of this, she expects a great return from the child in the future - at least, the Nobel Prize.
And the truth of life is that in most cases geeks grow into the most ordinary adults, and those skills that seemed extraordinary at 5 years old, their peers comprehend in due time, aligning themselves in development with those whom they considered a little genius.
It is more correct and wise to approach a gifted child with a different setting - to rejoice in his success in chess or drawing, but be prepared for the fact that the child may not become a chess player or an artist, but choose a different path and be happy.
The main thing is for the baby to know that you are proud of him and love him for who he is, no matter how quickly he multiplies the numbers in his mind. For us, all the same, our child is the best in the world. True? 🙂
How to avoid unilateral development of a gifted child
Very often, children who start to speak early, recite poems, read encyclopedias and know much more than their peers, parents “move” in this direction: the child prodigy is sent to school earlier, predicting a bright future for him in science. At the same time, they forget about emotional development (it is customary to say now - emotional intelligence), and the development of a gifted child is one-sided, he cannot communicate. How to grow from a prodigy versatile person? A case study tells the psychologist Ekaterina Murashova.
At that time I was just starting to work, and I treated every client who came to my office with a poorly concealed fear. And what if I do not understand at all what is happening to him? What if all the techniques that I own will be useless? And most importantly: will I be able to help him (them), or will he (they) go away disappointed in me in particular, and often in psychology in general (in those years, the psychological literacy of the population tended to zero, and often I was the first psychologist whom these people have seen in their lives)?
At that time, the whole family came to the reception: dad, mom and child, a boy of four or five. And I immediately liked it. At that time this was rare, mothers with children or teenage girls used to come on their own, just to “talk” (here we must remember that there were not many TV shows, talk shows, personal computers and Ineta in everyday life).
- You see, we have such a thing here. - Dad spoke. - We are about to consult his son. He is with us. how to say it. well, Filippok, in general, remember? - the man looked at me hopefully.
I remembered the story of Leo Tolstoy about a peasant boy who himself went to school, but did not have time to say anything.
“I don't like Tolstoy,” said the boy. - His stories are boring. I like Nekrasov more. "Frost Governor" - my favorite. Want to read?
- Edik, do not! - quickly said mom and, apologizing, smiled at me. - He really likes Nekrasov, and he knows by heart almost the entire poem. And much more. And loves to recite. If it starts, then it will not stop - offended.
“Yeah,” I nodded, to somehow respond. With the development of Edik obviously everything was in order. Even too much. But with what they came to me?
“We are engineers,” said the father. - And do not understand pedagogy. We thought he would play with cars, soldiers, then with the boys in the yard, then he would go to school.
“I probably would like to go to school,” Eddie told me confidentially. - But there, can you imagine what nonsense - only from seven years old they take!
“He can read, count, write,” said the mother. - Writes in block letters, written to him is not very much given. Almost never played and never played. He likes to talk with adults. All the time requires new books, mostly educational. Makes up his encyclopedia in thick notebooks, with pictures. We just do not know how to treat this. Is this generally the norm or what? - And suddenly, quite unexpectedly for me: - Victor, shut up his ears!
Before I had time to react, dad dexterously and habitually took the head of his son in his big hands. Edik did not try to escape and very carefully watched the maternal articulation. "It is quite possible that lip-reading," I thought, "the children are talented in this, and the case for him is clearly not the first."
“The husband's mother has schizophrenia,” the woman said quickly. - We heard that it is hereditary, so we are very worried. Excuse us for this scene, but we don’t want Edik to know and immediately take up the study of psychiatry, although in general the medical pediatric reference book (I used it when he was a baby and was ill) is his favorite book. Victor, I said everything, let him go!
The released Edik did not take a single step and continued to listen with interest to our conversation.
- In general, like this: what should we do with it now, so as not to harm? - Vitya took the bull by the horns.
The presence of my grandmother with schizophrenia enabled me to fully understand the problem and my responsibility.
- Let me talk to Edward now, and then think about it, and you will come again, already without a child? - I suggested. - He goes to kindergarten?
- Of course, come on! - Parents willingly agreed. - In the garden goes, and this is another problem. All the tutors say in chorus that he simply has nothing to do there. He sits around his nanny for days on end and, while she cleans up or washes the dishes, tells her various information from the encyclopedias read or reads verses aloud. She likes it, but you understand.
“The development is strong, but one-sided,” I told Edik's parents when they came to me the second time. - If these brains are all the time to feed the encyclopedias they ask for, then I don’t know what will happen. They can really overheat.
“Yeah, right,” said the parents. - But what to do?
- It is necessary to slowly start up all the other parties. If something is added somewhere, somewhere, something will certainly decrease. Now we will discuss how to do this.
- But will he be normal? The mother asked anxiously.
- Probably yes. The statistics are for you, I replied. - And let's start with a pretty nurse - let him not only read her poetry, but also help with the cleaning.
How Edik killed the mouse and helped the disabled
What happened next? It so happened that I know it. From that far day now. My participation in the event is minimal. The Edik family came to me once or twice a year - just to tell about successes and discuss failures. Having understood what is happening for themselves, they built a specific algorithm themselves and acted, often decisively and unexpectedly.
Edik continued to go to the kindergarten and served there as an assistant tutor: he kept order, organized classes, helped the nurse in cleaning and was completely safe.
The first mouse, which bought Edik (my advice), died. He did not feel her at all, could not properly care for her. Her death was experienced as a tragedy by the whole family. Edik was told: we are guilty, we overestimated you, you are a completely undeveloped child.
Edik read everything he could about mice and rats, drew up a comic-care scheme and asked for one more. He was refused, they said: later, when you better learn to feel others, living beings are not toys.
My sister was born. Edik, the elder brother, helped by instructions, willingly and effectively. Mother complained: she does everything, but she does not feel anything, as with a rat.
When Edik was five and a half years old, the kindergarten staff rebelled: your child needs to go to school, and preferably not in the first grade, but immediately in the second or third, you destroy talent or even genius, we will not keep him here anymore.
Mother and father have heard somewhere about the “Special Child” groups. We went to find out and found out that these are groups for children with developmental disorders. But they also take normal ones - such a concept, advanced, from the West.
“We also have a violation, only in the other direction,” said Edik's parents. - Write us in the most senior group.
Edik was very surprised. "Mom, Dad, what am I supposed to do there?" - he asked. “What? What?” Answered the parents. “What you can do. Help, develop. Saw what kind of children are there because of their illnesses are undeveloped? But they are not to blame. They need help.” “Aha, now I understand,” Edik nodded.
And two weeks later, happily told: "Do you know why I have everything wet? We taught Dasha the whole day to wash our hands. She was afraid at first, then splashed and threw soap, and then she even learned to soap herself! I taught her!" .
"Son, we are proud of you!" - sincerely answered parents.
How Edik went to school and taught languages
Six and a half years old, Eddie went to school. Parents told a young teacher about his previous experience in "Special Child" and asked: "You really use it to the full, so that he does not miss too much, huh?".
The girl admired her parents' creativity, was filled with curiosity, tested Edik in one of her first school days (his knowledge was on average at the third or fourth grade level) and told him: OK, bunny, we will work with you in this class.
At that moment, my parents and I discussed the following: emotional development and all kinds of help is, of course, excellent, but how can Edikin use his fantastic memory and his still curious curiosity about the world as a system? Yes, so that it then come in handy?
Then my mother recalled, by the way, that in two and a half years Edik was presented with cards with pictures, where on the reverse side the drawing was called in four languages. Edik demanded to name everything and soon pleased his almost speaking nursery, loudly calling furniture and dishes in French and Spanish.
- Of course, languages! - we realized. - It is always useful!
Edik enthusiastically picked up the parental initiative, communicating with adult tutors terribly pleased him (his peers children still greatly discouraged - he confessed to me that he had something easier with the disabled people from the Special Child).
In the fifth grade came the crisis. The young teacher was no longer there, the subject teachers had no time for entertainment, Edik said that at school "all the jerks" and he would not go there anymore.
- Will you go to the sixth grade? - I asked. - If, of course, you manage to pass everything? Or weak? Will you sit and whine?
Edik always reacted to intellectual challenges adequately, quite in his boyish age.
Here a teacher who loves a boy and a head teacher of primary classes have advised: you have nothing to do at our school, go to the Physics and Mathematics Lyceum, we will agree, we will explain, they will look at you.
Let's go. Until the eighth grade, everything was all right, then the head teacher called the parents: we have a very strong physical and mathematical program, your son studies three languages additionally, he is overloaded, unable to cope, two deuces in quarters, drop languages.
- But he loves them! He goes to Russian-French and Russian-German friendship clubs, watches Latin American TV shows without translation, dreams of visiting Spain!
“Then leave our school.”
Everyone advised to stay and recruit, the school in the city was quoted and gave guarantees of admission to the university or Polytech. Even I was silently cowardly. Edik said: "The talents in mathematics in our class are Leshka and Ilya. And I understand these tasks in third to fourth. We are leaving."
In an ordinary English school, the mathematics knowledge gained at the lyceum was edad, which was enough for grade 11. Languages he, of course, went brilliantly. Memory is still good. In addition, he willingly and dexterously helped everyone who didn’t have something to do with his studies, and in the last two grades, he worked as an English tutor for kids. He finished school almost (no tasks in physics and chemistry were given at all, he picked up by cramming) an excellent pupil, everyone's favorite.
Career guidance for the prodigy
- What should I do next? - confusion on a round acne physiognomy. - I dont know.
- What do you like? Languages?
- I don't want a translator. And I don't want a scientist either. I want with people.
- Probably not either, boring.
- What do you like to do? Do not listen to anyone but yourself. Remember that?
- I like to teach, explain, help. I did it all my life, in all classes, even in kindergarten I did it. I succeed, and this is cool, when a person did not know, could not, did not understand, and you explained to him, taught him, and it became.
- Well, you yourself answered your own question.
A few years ago, still very young teacher Edward became the “Teacher of the Year” in St. Petersburg - I quite unexpectedly (and very pleasantly) saw his portrait on the banner at the bus stop. I am very proud of him and wish him and his family every success.
Hidden talent. "The scale of school failure of gifted children is most studied in the United States, where intelligence tests (IQ) are widespread.
Data for the United States, and since I am now densely sitting on the forums of American education because of the arrival of my son, I can only say my impressions
1. Tests of giftedness in the United States begin in the elementary cheekbones (initial) and are purposefully primitive. This provides a wide entry funnel and minimizing losses.
Therefore, in the middle of the school (middle) of the gifted (gifted) classes of care 15-20%. This is a normal practice. But some children (in most cases, boys), on the contrary, in high school are activated and fall into advanced classes. This backward wave is much less than the leakage and amounts to 2-5%.
2. The entire system of the American school is the possibility of an academic elevator in a wide variety of subjects. You can be very gifted in math or dance. And that's all) for the rest of the subjects he studies at a basic level, with students much younger.
3. На одаренность фантастически алияет мотивация) при появлении мотивации скрытая одаренность проявляется и расцветает.
А вот с мотивированием в наших школах очень плохо. Именно поэтому у нас такое количество скрыто одаренных детей. Увы.
Наталья, а вы не пробовали пообщаться с германскими мамами, которые занимаются РР?
Хотя бы на предмет - интересных-развивающих групп?
И еще - если ребенок любит чтение - то может быть его заинтересуют аудиоэнциклопедии с Чевостиком?
Или просто музыкальные постановки?
although the best option is considered to be tales "read" by mom on a disc or cassette.
How to grow a genius - methods of struggle of globalists against early development?
Today was the transfer of globalists "How to grow a genius" - in my opinion, this transfer is directed against early development. And then the grandmother sawed, got out like a prodigy, well, he could not stand it, and probably after one of the TV horror films - he did what they were taught.
All methods of early development have only one significant disadvantage.
Namely - that as soon as the child grows up to school age - what to do with it is not clear. Either he goes to school, where he immediately finds himself head and shoulders above everyone else in development, and often to the upper classes, due to his general abilities, he easily leaves. And even until the end of the school. In the end, "unlearns" works, because it's all too easy. Or in the same place at school frankly idle. There are not so many options, and all are not the best. Since teachers who will individually approach such children - units. And special schools - and even less. Often the result is "unrecognized geniuses", with brilliant abilities, but completely unaccustomed to work.
Either the parent leaves his child at home and in fact builds his life around the education of the child. This, of course, can be quite good in terms of the child’s intellectual and other developments, but the development of a parent may not be the best way :) And again, only a few can afford it.
So alas, early development in full is good when there is a long-term strategy in advance. And in Russia, this is still very, very bad.
You read the book "How to raise a child with
"How to raise a child happy: the principle of continuity." Jean Ledloff. An American woman who lived in a tribe in South America for many years. 7ya.ru - information project on family issues: pregnancy and childbirth, parenting, education and career.
http://www.continuum-concept.org/ - site Lendlof, author of the book
I also liked the book very much - I read it completely, but according to my opinion, it is very critical to read and take it. But like everything you read about parenting.
All that Lendlof wrote is based on the experience of one particular tribe, but she herself writes that the neighboring tribe treated children in a completely different way, so what is described in the book is more the exception than the rule.
In general, for myself, I found many interesting things that I want to check on my child: for example, a minimum of custody and lisping, greater freedom of movement, and in general the choice of living space.
Deceive evolution :)
A gifted child is one who has managed to deceive evolution. There are such concepts in the Psychology of abilities as General endowments and Partial (special) endowments.
OFF. Ella, there have been additions to the registration. :) Could you comment on something: “The Pink Mouse” is the renamed “Happy Family”? :) And you are already working with two years? Then in what mode (time, day, how many hours.)? :))
And another question :) - you have earned mail?
Is it a prodigy?
I think that you should not impose. )) Too hard for geeks life is not easy.
I repeat: maybe it is not worth all the life just to build around the school? Not everyone wants to take the initiative in school affairs. I understand that adults want :)
Nyusha, of course, if there is an opportunity (both interest and time), why not do something else? For boys, it is important not only the head, but also the hands to "create" :)
If you go somewhere to do something, tell us too.
Sisters Knyazevy - subjective opinion.
Never sought to grow "prodigy." In 1949, the former geeks, the best mathematicians and psychologists on the initiative of Norbert Wiener, organized a famous seminar, began to revise psychology and human learning from the standpoint of theoretical methods.
My comment will also be subjective. :) The author of a “subjective article,” allegedly studying with the sisters, writes that Knyazevs studied according to an individual program.
In fact, as I found out, it was and it was not at all like that! :)
At the age of 9 to 11, the sisters began on a par with all - with 18-year-old - 19-year-old students together: they went to the same lectures and seminars.
But after three months, they were ahead of their age-old classmates, and therefore the very author of this topic - on average. twice! Angela had 96 points on the performance screen, while Diana had 94 points.
- wow, "pale shadow"!
Apparently this is the fact that the author calls "absolute ASOCIALITY".
In fact, the author and other students are asocial, and instead of studying, they ran, judging by their performance, for Klinsky or something else.
On the performance screen it was obvious that the average score of over-age students of the Academy barely reached 50 and in rare cases up to 60 points.
This, in fact, not only the author, but also the Academy, could not stand the “shame”: in December, students no longer put points on the performance screen.
It became obvious that the sisters in the general stream of students had nothing to do: they quickly went ahead, and in the first year they passed all exams for two courses, at the same time they began to study psychology and pedagogy, philology law.
This is what the author calls ASOCIALITY.
Sociality is a demographic concept: a child should receive a higher education well before 18 years of age - this is dictated by human biology.
Thus, ASOCIAL is the system of "traditional education", which artificially and consciously delays in school three times and does not allow the population at 18 to begin their direct duties: to bear and raise children in a family!
For some reason, the article “Sisters of Knyazevy: Subjective Opinion” begins with a lie. Unfortunately, lies in almost every line. Here is what the "author" writes, under the Nata Gorsky login:
"Both girls (the same age) always studied together (they had an individual tuition, external studies). They entered the institute at 14 and 13 years old respectively, graduated - after 3 years (year of graduation - 2000)"
For some reason, I remembered the saying of Nicolo Paganini: "They envy the gifted. They hate talented. They take revenge on genius." So you can write it all off. :)
Verification and analysis of this "information" showed:
Knyazev's sisters did not enter the Institute, but the Academy.
Knyazev’s sisters did not arrive at 13–14 years old, but at 9–11 years old, in 1998.
The Knyazev sisters studied, indeed, only three years and received the first bachelor's degrees in international economic relations - add three years!
A year later, received bachelor's degrees in pedagogy and psychology.
Well, and still got a couple of diplomas: in law, in philology.
Further, in general, subjective fabrications and sensations are outlined, which should not even be read and commented. However, this applies to all children and parents of the country, and it is necessary to defeat lies, otherwise she will defeat us.
The author hides that the sisters were engaged before entering the Academy and go in for sports and have sports categories! They were engaged in gymnastics, and tennis, and music, and choreography.
Is it even possible to assume that the author did not know about it when she wrote about inharmonious, one-sided development? No, this is impossible to assume - unless physical education at the Academy was canceled?
Despite the "catastrophic", in the most crisis and tragic years for Russia, the Knyazev sisters received in the form of intensive and external Russian, the best Soviet education and harmonious education, which helped them to get 5 higher education before the fulfillment of 17 years This is opposed by the "subjective author."
I found at our conference "Early Development" that back in 1996, the era of the Man of the Developed - Homo Advanced began - when children finish high school at 8 - 9 years old, receive from 4 to 5 higher education up to their maturity - 18- ti years.
This era of Homo Advanced began with the implementation of the methods outlined in the books: “To read - before going on,” “How to speed up the intellectual development of children,” “How to develop a child with a gifted one?” (author P.V. Tyulenev), see: www.larisa.h1.ru, as well as from the books: "Childhood - without diseases" (1970), "Schools - without lagging behind" (V.F. Shatalov, 1971) The era of the Man of Development has begun. - see: www.rebenokh1.narod.ru/haera.htm.
So, twenty years ago, in 1996, it was announced that the new education system “Child’s World” with the help of super advanced technologies (from: Homo Advanced) allows children to be given 4-5 higher educations - up to the age of 18 years. - see: “Series 4:“ Advancement - the path to a developed person. The science of the development of giftedness ”, [link-1].
At this conference, these issues began to be discussed back in 1999, and attempts to cast a shadow over the results of the Knyazev sisters and the methods of raising their parents are surprising: such attention to children deserves every encouragement and replication! - this is my "subjective", but universal opinion. The author of this article, obviously, considers all the conference participants as mentally retarded and tries to delay the development of children.
It can be seen that the author, in her subjective opinion, either completely lost her sense of proportion in a lie, trying to throw out some of her envy, or suffers from a “fox complex”.
Hypocritical wishes and wishes more often to put aside "Adam Smith" only underline that, apparently, the unfortunate author of this silly little article understands his guilt and seeks to somehow or somehow justify himself for his lies and, in fact, slander.
Thus, all the "subjective" judgments of this author - as is evident from the above facts: the liar and the enemy of harmonious education - must be perceived to the exact opposite.
I believe that it is necessary to discuss, thoroughly study and replicate in Russia the experience of the Knyazev sisters, the results of the system of intellectual development methods of wonderful teachers and parents: Nikitin, Shatalov, Tyulenev and forever forget the nightmare that is called the "traditional education system", which is the same deputy State Duma E.A. Fedorov and others call it the "occupational education system."
Gifted child. Child brain development. Child psychology. It is clear that for us ALL our children are gifted. But, nevertheless, what exactly do you mean when you talk about.
There is a saying: "People are born geniuses, then they become talented, then gifted, then capable, then they turn into mediocrity."
V.S. Yurkevich writes that in the middle classes of our school almost 80% of children are incapable (learn, not knowing how to learn).
"Teachers in ordinary schools deal mainly with disabled children." This statement struck me. With incapable or whose abilities were not allowed to develop?
Further Yurkevich writes that school teachers laugh at the opinion that there are no incapable children, but there are incapable teachers, and agrees with the teachers, regarding this opinion as a harmful stereotype.
Well, take the reverse statement: there are no incapable teachers, there are incapable children.
But how did it happen that 80% of the children - students of capable teachers (and this is ours with you, and not some hypothetical children) –– were incapable?
This is information for consideration :)
As for the identification of giftedness.
Yurkevich writes that an ordinary psychologist cannot identify and contribute to the development of gifted children: a specialist of this profile should deal with this.
However, she also claims that giftedness is from the word "gift" (the gift of nature, God's gift), but for its manifestation it is necessary to meet the child, by nature endowed with special possibilities, with the family, ready to develop these opportunities. And then - with teachers who know how to see talent and who are not afraid of it. Experience shows, she writes, that such meetings are quite rare.
As I understand it, those 20% "met."
And the remaining 80%? Unable or not met?
Now the answers to your questions.
The concept of "giftedness" is closely related to the concept of "ability", at the same time, the development of abilities is associated, on the one hand, with their biological base (makings) and activities, on the other.
In other words, a child with certain inclinations must “meet” with his family, teacher, psychologist, who will see these advances and will contribute (rather than crush or deform) the development of these abilities in those activities that the preschooler prefers from the mass of those proposed.
I spoke at the lecture (in Yershovo), why I don’t know how my first lesson with the child would go, why I designed the office so that I could see to which table, rack, rug, etc. the child will do, how he will sort out what is offered (he will immediately stop at one thing, run around the whole room and choose something for his favorite activities or he will become interested in me and what am I doing there, mumbling something under my breath :))
I am sure that every mentally and physically healthy child has the makings of total endowments.
Every child born with a certain deviation has the makings of giftedness in a certain field of activity that compensates for its lack.
There are children with special (partial) endowments - this is immediately apparent: the child shows a high cognitive activity in this particular direction, often ignoring other stimuli.
Wunderkind - a social phenomenon
The child prodigy and the genius are two completely different concepts. Geniuses in childhood are usually called "strange boy." So, the “strange boy” was Stephenson - an amateur, as it seemed to others, to hang around and hang around the kitchen for hours on end. But it was in the kitchen that this “idler” drew attention to the strange behavior of the lid of the boiling kettle, which gave him the opportunity later to become the creator of the first steam locomotive. No less “strange” was Charles Darwin, instead of studying the lessons with mice and baptized by his own father, “the shame of the whole family.” Even Pushkin showed no signs of genius in his childhood. According to his sister, he simply drove the mother into despair with his slowness and silence.
Geniuses often go through many hobbies: Leonardo da Vinci has a talent revealed in many areas. Let us recall our Lomonosov: the sphere of his knowledge and discoveries - from poetry to mathematics. Galileo's first hobby was painting, at 17 he began to study medicine and only later - mathematics. And examples of such darkness. Another sign of genius: independence of thinking and the ability to "swim against the flow."
Another thing is a child prodigy. This is a child with a bright talent, which simply can not be overlooked. He is a head taller than his peers in any one area. Adults develop his abilities, most often based on excellent memory or fitness of the body, and it is they who invent them. The child repeats what adults have taught him. He has very little of his own, because he is still learning everything. But even the ability for the prodigy is not important. It is much more important to be noticed and started to develop.
At the beginning of life, all children are the same (except for those who have some flaw in their genes). Further, much depends on the parents. Alone wisdom and kindness raise prodigy. Others extinguish the abilities given to them in their children. Why it happens? Experts believe that parents, raising children, make three main mistakes.
Limit the mobility of the child. Movement develops not only muscles, as it seems at first glance, but also the nervous system, the senses and thinking. A child who moves a lot, overtakes in mental development meek and lazy. And what do parents do? From birth, taldych: "Do not fall, do not push, do not break. “At school they are forced to sit with an idol, although any psychologist will say that the more a child moves, the less he gets tired and the less he assimilates educational material.
Few communicate with children. The child opens the world, constantly asking questions: what? Where? when? why? as? As a matter of fact, he solves for himself the same problems with which the most intelligent philosophers are engaged. And what parents say: “When you grow up, you will know,” “You will know a lot - you will soon grow old.” Every question must be answered, although it is difficult and requires patience. But when the child grows up, it is necessary to push him to independent decisions. “What do you think?” - ask another question. And be sure to figure it out with your child: right or wrong.
Denied child joint action. Does the kid take you to help, and what does he usually hear? “Stay back, break it,” “Don't interfere, you hurt yourself.” He is offered only the role of servants: bring, serve, hold. And such work is boring, there is no discovery in it. Let the child learn something together with you, not on the sidelines, but together. After all, only in this way, “from hand to hand” is experience transmitted.
To be or not to be?
Recently, I met a friend with whom we once brought our boys to the pool. My son was doing cool things. It was simply impossible to get him to lay out completely. “Look,” the trainer said after an intense workout, “he’s not even tired.” When I asked to study more seriously, my son answered: “Why?” “Well, in order to swim better,” I said. "What for? I swim so well. ” "To take first place." He puzzled me with his question. Indeed, why? Why for him, and not for our parent vanity? And the 2nd place in the city was the top of my son's swimming career.
The son of my friend floated playfully. He was, as it were, a part of the element and received tremendous pleasure from it. Не замедлили появиться и результаты. Он стал лучшим в городе, в республике. Семья поменяла место жительства: талантливому ребенку нужен простор. Его имя замелькало в газетах. И вдруг. «Сначала, — рассказывала приятельница, — начались боли в печени, заболевание глаз и непонятные высыпания по всему телу. Исчез интерес к тренировкам.And then - a complete aversion to the sport and severe depression. " A friend curses everyone: coach, government, society. She doesn’t even admit the thought that her son just has a revaluation of values. Probably, the goal - the result that adults have set for him, does not suit him anymore. He must come to himself, to find his place in life. If you're lucky.
Why do geeks burn? First and foremost, of course, from exorbitant exploitation. Experts believe that no matter how powerful a genotype a person is, he is not unlimited. And without care for the years 16-19, it is empty.
Secondly, the game is taken away from the geeks. A small obedient creature “plows” for many hours a day in the pool, on the ice or bangs the piano on the keys. Did anyone think what would happen to this child if his abilities passed, or if someone overtook him, or would he simply get tired? How will he live if in the past he has only exhausting work and struggle with rivals? Before talented children, arrogant parents set the only goal - primacy. But it has long been known that the struggle for primacy is always a race with time. Fragile talented children do not withstand this race, they break down, go the distance. And if one of them manages to reach the top, he suddenly realizes: only one road is further - down. After all, geeks simply cannot live; they have not been taught this.
Therefore, parents should think three times before putting their child’s abilities to the public. No matter how banal the truth, but the talent does not tolerate vanity. It must develop itself. And when the child grows up, then let him manage his own talent too.
Stages of intellectual development of the child
Do not rush into the pool with your head and try all the techniques on the child. The exercises described in them are designed for different age categories. Using the training material incorrectly, you will not achieve anything and distort the child’s normal thinking, which will lead to learning difficulties in the future.
How to understand what is suitable for a child at his age? To do this, refer to the classification of stages of intellectual development from birth to the age of 18. Described in detail the psychologist Jean Piaget.
Stages of intellectual development of the child:
Sensory-motor stage (0-2 years). During this period, the child studies the world with the help of sensations and movements. He can not wait to feel, bite, throw objects in the environment. Rationally by the parents will allow him to do it. During such a period, active games with races, toys with fillings, musical instruments are useful.
Preoperative stage (2-7 years). This period is marked by giving objects a symbolic meaning. A child plays with one, imagining that it is different: it represents a cardboard box with a house or a machine, paper sheets with plates and so on. You should not correct the baby and tell him how to correct. At the time of the game he develops imagination. Parents should support this venture and praise the young inventor. It's time for plot-role-playing games, the beginning of the study of colors, numbers, letters and other characters.
Stage of specific operations (7-11 years). During this period, the child is dominated by logical thinking. He forms a logical chain of action-consequences. It's time to familiarize your child with the concepts of measurement (weight, length, volume, width). During this period, the child begins to clearly realize that he is a particle of the world, and he is the center. Support the baby in this difficult period.
Stage of formal operations (11-18 years). A distinctive feature is that the child learns to predict, present the situation and look for options for continuation. During this period, it is already possible to explain to a teenager about the benefits or harms of actions, imagine what will follow them. The child has the first idols (superheroes, characters from films), which he imitates.
Tips for parents to bring up the genius
To develop brilliant abilities in the child, create a comfortable atmosphere for mental development. Only then will the potential inherent in every child be revealed. Psychologists recommend adhering to a number of rules that will help parents raise a child as a child prodigy.
Tips for parents to bring up a genius:
Do not keep the child in greenhouse conditions. He must get into difficulties and be able to find a way out of them.
Consider the characteristics of the character of the baby.
Set an example. Read books, go to museums and theaters, develop with it.
Spend free time with your child. A kid should feel that he is meaningful for parents and it is easier to show this by spending free time with him. You can play, watch TV or do household chores together. The main thing is that the situation is positive and you radiate love.
Do not focus on the techniques. The process should take place naturally, and not be driven by all sorts of exercises and exercises.
Spend time physical development of the baby. In a healthy body healthy mind.
Do not reproach a child for disobedience to adults, focus attention on the merits.
There is nothing difficult in the advice of psychologists. Every sane parent understands the veracity of these theses.
Today, there are many methods of teaching young geniuses that are designed for children from birth. Which one you choose depends on your preference.
First we will consider the Doman card methodology, thanks to which you can easily and naturally teach your child reading skills, a foreign language, counting and writing. Suitable for classes with children from birth.
Neurophysiologist Glen Doman, studying the brain activity of a growing child, came to the conclusion that from birth he was ready to accept a huge amount of information, and this ability passes over the years. By the age of six, the child already loses the ability to record everything he sees and hears. From this age, memory works selectively.
Didactic materials consist of cards, which depict objects, animals, actions and written names. You must show them to the kid and voice them. Later, when the child learns the connection between the words of the mother and the images in the pictures, he will begin to recognize them himself.
Requirements for classes - systematic, following the schedule, but not pressure on the child. You should not start a lesson if you see that the kid is in a bad mood. Praise and encouragement are welcome.
Cecile Lupan technique
This method of learning is an improved method of Doman. Cecille Lupan was a supporter of his research, and worked with the children on the cards. But each time she was convinced that small children are not a repository of information, and there is no need to teach everything in a row.
Methodology Cecile Lupan calls to pay attention to the development of the child's first 12 months of life. During this time, you need to comply with 4 requirements for raising a baby:
Show love, hug and kiss a child, enjoy success and encourage.
Stimulate the feelings of the baby (hearing, sight, tactile perception, taste and smell).
Develop motor activity.
Lay the foundations of speech.
This will allow the baby to easily learn in the future and learn any skills.
This technique has successfully existed for more than 20 years. Leningrad psychologist Nikolai Alexandrovich Zaitsev created it. Features consist in the fact that classes are held in a game format, which facilitates attracting the attention of the child and his retention. The child will not have to sit in one place, on the contrary, Zaitsev's cubes imply mobility. They are engaged even in the open air.
The technique is suitable for children who are two years old. With the help of educational cubes kids learn to read and count. Lessons are easy and easy. According to the author, it is enough to give classes 20 hours, and the child will master the skills of reading and counting.
The most controversial of the directions in pedagogy. Many parents listen with delight about the basic principles of the school, others fundamentally disagree with them. The fact is that Waldorf training denies the advisability of early mental development. Teachers believe that reading and writing should be taught at school age, and before that attention should be paid to creative development.
Toys and educational materials are selected a variety. The main thing is that they are safe. Waldorf School does not accept compulsion, the child chooses an occupation for himself. Much attention is paid to music lessons. Accompaniment should sound when reading fairy tales, games and other activities.
The pedagogical system, developed in the middle of the twentieth century by ordinary parents, is now popular all over the world. And this is not surprising. It is simple and accessible, many mothers and fathers fully agree with the theses set forth in it.
The first thing Nikitins insist on is paying enough attention to the physical development of the child. Every kid’s room should have a sports wall. Where he has the opportunity to work at any time. They also recommend giving free rein to the child to learn from his mistakes.
The Nikitin system considers the contact with the mother, her love and care to be just as important: feeding on demand, sleeping together, sharing activities and hobbies. This technique developers consider sufficient for the full development and education of the genius.
The task of this training system is to create conditions in which the child will reveal the potential. This is achieved complete freedom of choice of classes and their duration. He independently organizes the workplace, selects materials and learns.
Montessori pedagogy has the main rule that parents must follow - not to interfere with the child. You must arrange the room so that all the toys, didactic materials, books are available for the baby. Pay special attention to the furniture, because the child wants to move his table or work on the floor.
Whatever method you prefer, the main thing in teaching a child is not to harm him. Never push the baby, do not demand much from him. Training should be unobtrusive and enjoy the baby. Then he quickly learns any knowledge and grows genius.