The ability to give a compliment to a beloved man at the right time at the right place is a great art. With proper praise, a woman can gently manipulate her partner, gently pushing him to do what she needs. Director of the Vladimir dating agency “I and you”, family psychologist, interpersonal relations consultant Elena Kuznetsova called phrases that would not leave a single man indifferent.
According to the expert, the "batch" must be done immediately on - "lower" and "upper".
1. "You are the best because."
Any phrase in excellent form, beginning with the words: “You are the most”, or “You are the best” will have the necessary action. It is important, however, to remember that abstract praise is a road to nowhere. “Just like that,” you risk. The partner will stop responding both to you and to your requests. So the advice to women is to praise the beloved, but for the cause.
“Anyone likes being praised. When pleasant words are said just like that, you get used to the fact that you are the best, and this is a priori. Praise in this case loses its meaning. So, in order to stimulate a partner for further exploits, ”states Kuznetsova.
The examples are simple. A woman can say: “Thank you for buying this dress for me. You are the best man! ”, Or“ you didn’t stint on a fur coat for me! ”, Or:“ You cook so tasty - you are the best! ”,“ How cool you are doing housework - you have golden hands. You are the best!".
Hearing such words, expressed in excellent form and with admiration, the man really feels "the very-most." And when, in addition, they explain to him why he is so wonderful, the representative of the stronger sex, to maintain the status of the best and. It sounds a bit rough, but the action-oriented praise produces Pavlov's dog's reflex in a man, forcing him to perform new feats in the name of a beautiful lady. Dame, in turn, it is important not only to stimulate a loved one to these accomplishments, but also from the end result: "I am a happy woman, because I have you, and you are taking me to the sea."
Another nuance that is important in this case. Praising a man, a woman needs from time to time at the end of a tirade to carefully transfer the arrows to herself, say something like:.
“It is important that a man is not fed up with compliments and does not pass to the stage:“ I am a star! ”. Focus on the fact that:. A beautiful woman needs a beautiful kokoshnik, and you are the same hero who made me this kokoshnik, because I am beautiful, ”the psychologist explains.
2. "You are my protector"
Phrases like: “You are my assistant,” “You are my protector,” “You are my guardian,” and so on, demonstrate the importance of a man in the eyes of a woman and. The man in this case feels, firstly, "male." Secondly, the idea that a woman is lost without him is lost on his subcortex, and that his partner needs him, because without him she is a weak and worthless creature.
"These, rather than just the words:" I need you. " It’s great that a woman tells a man that she needs him, but here again the specifics are important: “I need you, because you are my protector.” This effectively affects the subconscious of the elect, ”says Kuznetsova.
3. “I miss you”
Warm need to speak necessarily. Perhaps not permanently, but periodically. It doesn't matter that you meet at home every night.
A good tradition a couple of times a week to send a man a gentle SMS with text, like:
“It is necessary to make clues, you need to“ anchor ”your man:“ I am your wife (girlfriend), and I think about you, ”explains the interpersonal relations expert.
At the same time, Kuznetsova notes that it is not necessary to constantly write the same phrase. With text variation, the meaning should, however, remain unchanged: “I miss you,” “I think of you,” “May you have the best day.”
These SMS, sent with a certain frequency, - a kind of reminder about yourself and that a man is important to you. The partner may, but he will definitely smile while reading them.
4. "You are the best lover"
Here it is impossible not to recall the statement of Freud that. For this reason, the “lower chakra” is either nothing or good and very good. The latter is preferable. Praise your partner before sex, during sex and after sex: "I feel very good with you." “Too much” in this case does not happen, because at such moments yours. And grateful to the woman for the fact that she appreciates this of his "masculinity."
5. Curtsy to relatives and friends
Communicating with a man, a woman should know his interests and preferences, ranging from favorite things in the wardrobe, hobbies and ending with people whom he values. So, that lady should sometimes, and his clothes, and friends, and relatives - mother, first of all. A man will be grateful to you for respecting his microworld and his surroundings.
Communication and conversation - a mutual process
First of all I want to clarify - communication between a man and a woman, this is of course always a two-way process. Since we are not talking to the wall, the second person, of course, must also follow certain rules of communication, and understand them, otherwise harmony will not work out.
But the next question is: how to convey to a person certain laws of communication, if he does not know them and does not follow them? Here, the approaches of a woman and a man are very different. For a woman, this is one scheme, for a man, another. Perhaps we will begin with the man.
1. How can a man convey information to a woman?
How can a man bring the rules of communication for his woman, if she does not know something? The answer: no way! A man does not have the right to change his woman; he cannot change her - and certainly with some morals or lectures.
The male path is different: the man must act, not speak, so that the woman feels protected. If a woman’s confidence in a man is developed, then many problems will disappear by themselves.
But trust is not won by beautiful words and chatter. Trust is gained by deeds and actions.
Therefore, all that a man needs in order to influence his woman is to do it, not to speak.
And the second: a man chooses his woman with the condition that he accepts her as she is. In any mood, with its qualities - merits and demerits, and loves it anyway, not trying to change. Only if a man has such a mindset - that I love my woman in spite of everything, only in this version can a man and a woman become happy in marriage and relationships.
2. What a man should say to his woman
A man should speak to his woman quite a bit. None of the women loves the talkative men who do not close their mouths. And it is obvious that the man is laconic, but commits real men's actions - will appreciate a lot much more than a talker.
But nevertheless it is necessary to communicate somehow :) And to tell the woman something is necessary. So what to say?
2.1 A man should tell a woman how he loves her, and how beautiful she is
Despite the fact that I wrote above, about the fact that a woman is used by laconic men, there is another side to the question: a woman loves with her ears. What does it mean? Let's take a closer look at the question.
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This expression “a woman loves with ears” means that it is important for a woman to recognize her beauty, grace and her virtues, and tell her about it. Women love sincere compliments, spoken from the heart, and showing what a woman really is.
In fact, it is advisable to build a conversation with a woman around her — in this case, it will be interesting not only for her to tell, but also to listen. If a man begins to talk about himself and his virtues, about how wonderful he is, unique, and so on, or tickling about his problems, jambs and difficulties, that's all, the woman instantly loses interest. And rightly so)
For a woman, words of love are critically important, as regular proof of what a man feels inside.
For a man to say such words is sometimes difficult, and causes embarrassment in a man. But it is very important.
The praise of a woman, and pleasant words - this is what a man should say constantly.
2.2 A man should say what he did for his woman
It's all pretty simple. A man should talk about their actions for women. It is for women, and not just about anything.
Suppose if a man bought a cool phone of the latest brand, then talking about it to a woman, despite the fact that he didn’t buy anything for her, it’s just silly and very strange. Of course, a woman will react negatively to such conversations. After all, what was done was not done for her.
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But if a man bought a phone or something else for a woman - of course it can boast.
At the same time, when a man brags, he satisfies one of his basic needs - to be a hero for someone. If women praise a man for his actions for her, then everything falls into place. Everyone is happy and happy.
But a woman can start to "squirm", and not thank the man for his actions. Sometimes women start to consider some actions of a man - that they take for granted, so to say “by default”. In some cases, this is true, and throwing a man’s feet to kiss each time he opens the door for you is rather stupid, but reason is needed in everything — and many women don’t thank for anything at all. Or they do it very sparingly.
In this case, a woman makes a big mistake, not understanding the psychology of a man, and the fact that, for a man, the words of gratitude are the same as words of love, and even more valuable. If a man does not feel the gratitude of a woman, does not hear such words from her - then what is the point for him to continue to do something? After all, he does not get any result. Does not see any reaction.
If a woman praises her husband for his actions, allowing him to show off - this very strongly binds the man emotionally. He feels this nourishment and support, and will always return to his woman. If he does not feel, he will most likely find someone else for whom he will be a hero.
2.3 A man should say what he is going to do for a woman
Another important aspect: a man should talk about his plans for a woman.
It is important for a woman to know the future for the long term, as uncertainty is always the risks that cause fear and anxiety in any woman. If there is a certain road along which you can go - even if it is approximate, and it may change a hundred times more - the woman calms down.
Plus - talk about their plans for women, for men is an additional guideline. Since women can (and will) quite often change their desires and aspirations (as the woman herself is constantly changing), a man always needs to be checked - how a woman belongs to this or that plan.
After all, if a man does not ask, and communicate with his woman, then there is a great chance - to miss the moment when her mood changes, she begins to want something completely different, and as a result efforts and resources will be spent - and the result is zero. A woman will no longer need it.
2.4 A man should share positive emotions with a woman
But of course it is impossible to speak only words of love, and recognition of the beauty of a woman. It should be the usual everyday communication. And now I'm not talking about some everyday things, such as questions about where the socks are, or what products to buy for dinner.
Should a man share some emotions with a woman? Of course I must! We are not cars. But what should these emotions be?
Only positive! The task of a man is to protect his woman, and protect primarily from the negative. If a man regularly drains his negative emotions onto a woman, she will suffer from this very much, get annoyed, and even get sick. A man does not have the right to do this with his woman.
But positive emotions can and should be shared - after all, they give only a charge of cheerfulness, good mood. So a man can boldly tell a woman something good in order to please her too.
2.5 How a man should talk to a woman
There is another important nuance in how a man should communicate with his spouse (or just a girlfriend). A man should speak as clearly and briefly as possible. Why?
Because women are such creatures who speak in subtext and hints.
That is, they finish any phrase mentally - giving it different meanings. This explains the phenomenon of “inflated an elephant from a fly”. The man says the phrase, the woman completes it mentally to unimaginable dimensions - and a conflict arises.
What to do to avoid this? A man must speak in such a way that a woman has no chance to find subtexts in the words of a man. It is desirable that these were very short, and even slightly “sharp” phrases. The fewer words, the less chance that a woman digs up some nonsense in the words, and inflate her to the skies.
3. What a woman can talk to her husband
Now let's talk about women. What can a woman say to a man (or husband)?
Answer: all! But not at once. Let's take a closer look at what this means.
It is critical for a woman to be open, pouring out her emotions and thoughts. If a woman is as open as possible - and feels that her thoughts and emotions are accepted calmly, and with attention - the woman calms down. If she keeps herself, tries to figure it out and think about everything, then more often she will start to wind herself up very much and there will be more and more problems.
Therefore, a woman just needs to tell everything to her man. In this case, and he will feel calmer, seeing this openness, and the woman calms down herself. If it closes, all these thoughts and emotions still break through, and the man sees and feels that something is not right, but he cannot do anything. A woman suffers, she is silent and silent, and at some point she explodes. And the man is dumbfounded.
There is one more thing - a woman can tell everything to her man, but not immediately.
Since for all my life a large amount of all the nonsense and nastiness in the soul, from which I want to get rid of, is accumulated. But if at one moment it is poured onto a man - he simply most likely will not sustain such a flow of emotions, and negative experiences at one moment, and may simply “break down” and leave the woman.
If women very wisely and slowly prepare a man, slowly opening up before him, preparing and training him, then by the time the man is ready, the woman will have already merged most of his experiences with him and will have cleared. And all will be well.
How does a man think before this meeting and after it?
I am sure that every woman wants to know about it.
After all, it will help to understand whether he truly considers you his soul mate.
So get ready to "get into your head" to your man. Now you will learn in detail about his 7 thoughts, which he carefully conceals.
Thought 1. "I will roll mountains, but I will fulfill any of her wishes."
Once a wonderful science fiction writer Robert Highline said one clever phrase: "Love is a state in which the happiness of another person is an integral part of your own."
Every truly man in love wants her to be happy.
For this, he will be ready to realize any of her dreams. And for him it is absolutely unimportant how difficult it is to carry them out.
What does a man think when he wants to make you happy? He wants to become a knight in shining armor and, swinging his sword right and left, to kill the terrible dragons that threaten his lover.
But in real life, a man acts differently. It all depends on its capabilities at the time. Yes, today he can take you to an expensive restaurant or arrange a walk on a yacht, make a valuable gift. But also his feelings for you, his desire to take care of his beloved woman can be expressed in simpler ways. He can just take care of you when you are sick, make surprises or indulge your favorite sweets. Show respect and respect towards you.
Regardless of the magnitude and importance of such actions, they will always mean one thing - he considers you "the very one."
Thought 2. “For her sake I am ready to become stronger”
A man always strives to become the best version of himself, regardless of the state of the relationship in which he is located. But when “exactly that” woman comes into his life, he has completely new motivations. How does a man think after this?
Now he is confident that he must try harder to achieve his goals. After all, you become a ray of light on his dark life path and he wants to be proud of him. He will want to introduce you to improved himself.
Поэтому, если Вам не понятно, о чем и как думает мужчина, когда в очередной раз поздно возвращается домой из-за посещения спортзала или задержки на работе, посмотрите на него и все станет ясно. Если горящие глаза и крепкий поцелуй являются неизменными составляющими каждого такого возвращения, значит, все это ради Вас. Не злитесь на него и не говорите, что он не прав. Спортзал ему нужен, чтобы рядом с его любимой женщиной всегда был сильный мужчина. And delays at work will allow him to become more successful and start earning more in order to be able to satisfy all your needs.
Thought 3. "Never before have I met such a beautiful woman"
How do men think about their lovers?
We love a woman as she is. And everything in her is beautiful.
It is impossible to literally describe the emotions of a man when he sees the woman he has been waiting for all his life.
He loves her different: just out of bed in his dented pajamas and in a beautiful evening dress.
Every time the sight of her takes his breath away. What is a man thinking at this moment?
Realizing that before him is the most beautiful woman in the world, he is no longer able to think about anything!
Thought 4. "I am glad that my past relationship has failed!"
This thought is exactly what a man thinks when he realizes that you are “the very one”. No, he will not complain about what a bad relationship he had before you. He will be glad that he had them. After all, with their help, he was able to prepare for a meeting with the "one".
And now he is an experienced man who knows what a woman may want, how to care for her and how to make her happy.
Thought 5. "My personal desires are no longer so important."
How does a man think when he is alone?
“I want to marry and live with a single woman until the end of my days?” So she gave me many, many kids? ".
Well, this is unlikely!
It is difficult to want children if you do not know who their mother will be. It's hard to think about a family if you don't know who will be next to you.
What does a man think in reality? Until the moment of the meeting of a woman with whom he was ready to tie his fate, his life had personal desires and goals. They are simple and clear. And believe me, among them there is definitely no dream of beautiful interior items or a new sofa. But, having met “that one”, he realizes that now it is necessary to realize the goals and desires that concern both of you.
Thought 6. "I hope I have not spoiled everything"
Have you ever seen fear in his eyes for doing something wrong? Yes, a man can also worry that he is not strong enough and quick in making decisions! Agree that nobody is perfect.
What does a man think in these moments?
The fact that he must daily prove the seriousness of their feelings. Therefore, you need to love your man as he is. Also need to tell him about it.
Of course, this does not mean that now he can sit on the sofa with a bottle of beer, turn on the TV and thus spend all the rest of his life until the end of his life.
If he considers you “the very one,” he will surprise you every day with something and not sit back.
He may try to find a new joint hobby, start going to the pool together, suggest making new shelves to the bathroom for your entire makeup collection.
And if your man fails, try to support him. So that he has no thoughts about the fact that one of his failures can change your opinion about him for the worse.
Thought 7. "I do not know how it happened, but I am so happy about it."
Luck, fate, rock - the reason he met you may have different names.
Sometimes it is impossible to explain how you met. They lived in different places (cities, and, maybe, countries) and until that very meeting they were not even aware of the existence of each other. Nevertheless, this meeting took place.
I do not know about you, but your man in the heart definitely thanks fate for that. Believe it is true.
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It is important that after reading this article, you take the following for yourself: when a man loves, he shows his feelings through actions. What is more important, he will never hide you from relatives, relatives and friends. After all, you are “the only one” that inspires him to male actions. But remember that by taking life into your own hands, you can influence the actions of a loved one. And how wisely and as a woman you will do this depends on the personal happiness of being “that one”.
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A woman should not tell her chosen one that he does not understand her. After all, sometimes the weak half of humanity itself does not understand what it wants. With the help of such a phrase a woman will not be able to convey to the man her true feelings and experiences. It is better to say directly about their desires, because the stronger sex does not like allegories and hints.
Never blame a man for failing to show feelings: talk beautifully, kiss or hug. It is better to teach him this in practice, or there will be one that will teach faster.
His past relationship.
This topic can bring him memories and make him feel sorry for the past. In addition, men do not like when they climb into the soul.
My dad had two swords: one for people, the other for animals. He did not allow me to touch them, but I knew where they lay.
One day, father told his mother that he was going to the hills in the east to fight a "lonely hunter", but for some reason he took a sword to hunt! Beast sword! And when papa returned, he was without a sword.
That would be great: he is returning home, and I give him the beast sword! Daddy will be terribly happy, I know. Can you find me this sword?
Daddy loved his animal sword. He didn’t have anymore.
1. "You are the best because" ...
Any phrase in excellent form, beginning with the words: “You are the most”, or “You are the best” will have the necessary action. It is important, however, to remember that abstract praise is a road to nowhere. Bleeding a man with compliments “just like that,” you risk growing delusions of grandeur in him. The partner will get used to your admiration for them and will stop reacting both to you and to your requests. So the advice to women is to praise the beloved, but for the cause.
“Anyone likes being praised. When pleasant words are said just like that, you get used to the fact that you are the best, and this is a priori. Praise in this case loses its meaning. So it is necessary to praise for concrete actions in order to stimulate a partner for further exploits, ”Kuznetsova said.
The examples are simple. A woman can say: “Thank you for buying this dress for me. You are the best man! ”, Or“ You are the most generous, did not stint on a fur coat for me! ”, Or:“ You cook so tasty - you are the best! ”,“ How cool you are doing housework - you have golden hands. You are the best!".
Hearing such words, expressed in excellent form and with admiration, the man really feels "the very-most." And when, in addition, they explain to him why he is so wonderful, the representative of the stronger sex tries to conform to the situation, maintain the status of the best and not drop the “crown” entrusted to him. It sounds a bit rough, but the action-oriented praise produces Pavlov's dog's reflex in a man, forcing him to perform new feats in the name of a beautiful lady. Dame, in turn, it is important not only to stimulate a loved one to these accomplishments, but also to show the chosen one sincere joy from the end result: “I am a happy woman, because I have you, and you take me to the sea”.
Another nuance that is important in this case. Praising a man, a woman needs from time to time at the end of a tirade to carefully transfer the arrows to herself, say something like: “You are the best, because you have such a woman.”
“It is important that a man is not fed up with compliments and does not pass to the stage:“ I am a star! ”. Focus on the fact that: “You are a star, because I’m your star. A beautiful woman needs a beautiful kokoshnik, and you are the same hero who made me this kokoshnik, because I am beautiful, ”the psychologist explains.
2. "You are my protector"
Phrases like: “You are my assistant,” “You are my protector,” “You are my guardian,” and so on, demonstrate the importance of a man in the eyes of a woman and show the weakness of a woman. The man in this case feels, firstly, "male." Secondly, the idea that a woman is lost without him is lost on his subcortex, and that his partner needs him, because without him she is a weak and worthless creature.
"These phrases affect a man much more than just the words:" I need you. " It's great that a woman tells a man that she needs him, but here again the specifics are important: "I need you, because you are my protector." This effectively affects the subconscious of the elect, ”says Kuznetsova.
3. “I miss you”
Warm words about love and feelings need to speak necessarily. Perhaps not permanently, but periodically. It doesn't matter that you meet at home every night.
A good tradition a couple of times a week to send a gentle SMS to a man with a text like: "I miss you."
“It is necessary to make clues, you need to“ anchor ”your man:“ I am your wife (girlfriend), and I think about you, ”explains the interpersonal relations expert.
At the same time, Kuznetsova notes that it is not necessary to constantly write the same phrase. With text variability, the meaning should, however, remain unchanged: “I miss you,” “I think of you,” “Have a nice day, darling,” “May you have the best day.”
These SMS, sent with a certain frequency, - a kind of reminder about yourself and that a man is important to you. The partner may not respond to the messages sent by the woman, but he will definitely smile while reading them.
4. "You are the best lover"
Here it is necessary to recall Freud’s statement that a man’s life revolves around his member. For this reason, the “lower chakra” is either nothing or good and very good. The latter is preferable. Praise your partner before sex, during sex and after sex: "You are the best lover," "I feel very good with you," "You work wonders in bed." "Too much" in this case does not happen, because at such moments your man feels like a male winner. And grateful to the woman for the fact that she appreciates this of his "masculinity."
5. Curtsy to relatives and friends
Communicating with a man, a woman should know his interests and preferences, ranging from favorite things in the wardrobe, hobbies and ending with people whom he values. So, a lady should sometimes praise the hobbies of a loved one, and his clothes, and friends, and relatives — mother, first of all. A man will be grateful to you for respecting his microworld and his surroundings.
What are 5 words that every woman should know to make a man fall in love?
First of all, these are words of praise. No man can resist the phrase "You are so clever, I would never have thought of this!" Or "You know how to do it so well, I could not!" Men need to constantly praise, but for the cause. Do not exaggerate, otherwise he will regard it as hypocrisy. In addition to praise you need to pay attention to compliments. A man will not stand if you say to him: “You have such a look that it is impossible to tear yourself away” or something like that.
Secondly, a man appreciates that a woman trusts him. The phrase “I can only entrust this to you” or “I have not told anyone about this before” will win the heart of a man. Such trust flatters him very much. However, it is not necessary to give the man all his secrets. It is not known, how further the relationship will develop.
However, he must feel that not only you trust him, but he can trust you as well. The phrases “I will always support you” or “If you want to talk, I will always listen to you” will hint the guy that in a difficult moment he can turn to you.
Thirdly, it is worth remembering that sometimes one should show discontent with some of his actions. However, in no case can a man read morality, reprimand and reproach. No man will tolerate this. If a woman does not like any act of a man, you need to say this delicately. For example, use the phrase “You know, I do not like it. Only ill-manned men do this. I think that you are not like this "or" When you behave like this, you gradually kill feelings in me. " A man should understand that you have your own principles and that he is not indifferent to you. You need to steer it in the right direction. Besides, he will see a real woman in you.
The fourth rule of conquest is to show a man that he is the first. I need to say something similar to the phrase "You are the first who made me happy" or "You are the first who gave me incomparable pleasure." A man must understand his value.
The fifth rule at the beginning of communication is one of the most effective. A man is interested in not only the result that he achieved you, but also the process itself. Nobody likes accessible women. The phrase "I received a letter today from some guy who says that we are familiar and offers to meet" will immediately bring the guy to a million questions, he will immediately wish to be the only one she thinks about. Similar phrases are a signal to action. The main thing is not to exaggerate, otherwise a man will think that he is not interested in you, and you just play.
In any case, it is worth remembering that there are no specific standards. Men are different, and with some of these phrases are, but with some not. A man needs to understand and find an approach to him.